New Mexico Daily Lobo
URL: http://www.dailylobo.com/index.php/article/2010/01/doing_it_in_the_duke_city_clean_and_painless_anal_sex_no_butts_about_it
Current Date: Thu, 24 May 2012 02:52:19 -0600
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Doing it in the duke city: Clean and painless anal sex- no butts about it
Your sphincter is smarter than you think.
That’s what I learned after going to Self Serve Sexuality Resource Center and buying anal sexpert Tristan Taormino’s two educational, erotic DVDs, “Tristan Taormino’s Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women,” and “The Expert Guide to Anal Sex for Men,” available as a visual counterpart to her book, Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women.
The National Survey of Family Growth interviewed over 12,000 men and women from ages 15 to 44. Their results showed that 34.7 percent of women and 40 percent of men had engaged in anal sex at least once. I would imagine those numbers have increased, since the survey was conducted in 2002.
Many people think anal sex hurts, it damages your butt and that it’s messy, but these notions are more fiction than fact.
Anal sex should not hurt if it’s done right. Taormino’s advice on making anal sex feel good is simple and straight forward — start small and slow.
“If it hurts, that’s your body’s way of saying ‘Lets stop,’” Taormino said in an interview. “And if it hurts it means you’re not doing it right. Maybe you’re not using lube, or not warming up, or not starting small, or you’re not in the mood for it.”
Many people also think that women and men can’t orgasm when they’re having butt sex, which is a myth. According to Taormino and other women an anal orgasm is different from a vaginal orgasm and can be more intense.
As for the mess, there are steps you can take to keep it clean. Taormino said one should always poop before having anal. One should also wet a finger with soap and water to gently clean the opening of the anus.
Taormino also mentions giving yourself an enema before having anal sex. An enema is a procedure where you flush your anal canal with water to loosen stool and produce a bowel movement. Enema kits can be found at most drugstores. But even with these steps, there might still be a little mess. Taormino said to just wipe it away and get over it.
Damaging your ass can happen, but normally only occurs when people don’t know what they’re doing. Going too fast, being under the influence of drugs or alcohol and not using enough lube can tear anal tissue. However, your bum-bum is rich with nerve endings and elastic skin — just like the vagina.
Some good ways to get into anal sex without overdoing it are to start off with a finger or small toy, but not a huge dildo or a penis.
Starting with one finger and lots of lube is a good idea. Water or silicone based lubes are the best, but remember spit and lotion don’t work. Once you’re comfortable, you can work up from there. As you use bigger sizes of toys or other devices, use more lube.
One lesson that you don’t want to learn the hard way is to have someone hurt you with their fingernail, so always cut them. Also, don’t insert your finger from the tip, use the pad of your finger and then keep diving in from there.
After watching the “Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women” DVD, I observed that massaging the area before inserting anything helps relax the muscles, as does taking slow deep breaths if you’re the one being fondled.
Anal sex is different for men and women, whether you’re in hetero or homosexual relationships. Heterosexual men are often shy about anal because they think if they enjoy the act it might mean they are gay or bisexual.
Now, for my take on it. The anus, just like the vagina and penis, feels good when stimulated correctly, which should be reason enough to enjoy the sensations. But men get the added bonus of feeling prostate pleasure.
The prostate gland is located a couple inches into the body between the penis and the rectum, just underneath the bladder. The prostate gland is what makes and produces prostatic fluid, or what gives ejaculate its texture and smell, and it can feel very pleasurable to have it massaged during anal sex.
Women who want to have anal sex with their male partner can use a variety of toys such as butt plugs, dildos and strap-ons. But the same rules apply; start slow, communicate and use lots of lube.
The men in Taormino’s video said they liked more subtle motions in anal sex such as light massaging as opposed to a constant in and out motion, but it is different for everyone.



38 comments
sick-of-it
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And this is called “journalism:” where information that should be reserved for medical journals is posted as everyday banter for those who just can’t get enough sex. Daily Lobo is not a newspaper, it’s a sex tabloid. You posted this in “culture” as if this is just as much a part of our everyday lives as a cup of coffee. It obviously is for you, Mr Riley, especially when you didn’t keep this article informational but chose to immerse your “take on it.”
For the Miss
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I totally disagree with “sick-of-it”
What, exactly, are you sick of? That the Daily Lobo is ahead of the curve at representing hot topics and sexuality and sex ed information in our paper? Ms. Riley (yes, Ms) did are great job report here when a nationally known and respected sex educator came to town. Sounds like accurate, timely and important information. Just because the topic isn’t for YOU doesn’t mean it shouldn’t be printed.
Proud Aggie Alumni
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This is just pure “crap”. Now I have yet another reason to call this “newspaper” The Daily Loob.
Carter Daniels
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Thanks for reminding me why I should have went out of state. This is an absolutely ridiculous excuse of an article. Did you guys need to fill space? I surely hope that was the only reason this was published. I can’t believe something this retarded is in the daily lobo. Thanks for reassuring my beliefs that the daily lobo is only good for one thing! SOMETHING TO WIPE MY ASS WITH.
Lobonious Monk
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After graduating from the distinguished University of New Mexico with a degree in C&J. This article is simply poor writing, poor journalism, but great subject matter. I don’t disagree with covering such progressive topics like ‘anal sex’ but to use words like “bum-bum” and “poop” seems to cheapen what could have been a well written piece. Instead this article was as crappy as the “poop” coming out of Hunetr Riley’s “bum-bum”
A nursing student
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It is okay if he wants to discuss any subject he wants to. We are supposed to be intelligent adults at college. Maybe some students will save themselves a trip to UNMH, and not miss class with an injured anus because of this article. Thanks Hunter! :) ——->By The Way, CD if you do wipe w/ the Daily Lobo, make sure that you soften it first, or you may injure your anus.
Mrs. Badcrumple
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This article is just giving out information. Something perhaps, that people might not look up on their own volition. Regardless, it’s good information to have. Stop being such a bunch of prudes! At least your school doesn’t publish articles slamming “Souped up Hondas” (yes, this was a real article at my college). At least this article is making an attempt to help people safely practice something that they might want to try.
A good mark of journalism is the willingness to diversify. Lose that, and you pigeon-hole yourself into a subset of topics that a select few people decide are worthy of publishing. You guys should be proud that your school allows such a free range of opinion and information distribution.
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Love,
a girl who appreciates the information and lack of bias in presenting it.
Hello Reddit!
UTDallas Student
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(this is targeted solely to the naysayers in these comments)
Hey y’all… fellow Redditor here…
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So… this is a college newspaper, right? And it’s targeted to college students, right?
So I’m confused. The culture of college students has nothing to do with sexual exploration?
If you don’t want to read the article, or learn how to take care of your body, or learn how to have pleasurable experiences, then don’t. But there’s no reason it shouldn’t be published here. Those who think otherwise are the same people who engage in censorship. Freedom of the press means freedom to write about whatever they want to, without your permission, unless it’s copyrighted.
Macroeconomics major
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The standard of what passes for “journalism” continues to be corroded. I’m glad you’re so concerned with anal sex, Mr. Hunter, and what you do with your free time is up to you. This is still somewhat of a free country, and you can publish whatever you want.
I’m against censorship as much as the next guy, but it seems that the pendulum has swung the other way, and now if you’re not obsessed with anal sex you’re a “prude” which is just as extreme as calling an average woman a “slut” for showing some leg. Give us some balance for God’s sake.
Patrick
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If people like “Macroeconmics major” are complaining, you’re probably doing a good job. Keep it up.
James
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Looks like Hunter achieved his goal. The only reason he did this was to have a “Oh my god, you should have seen what I published back in college” story to tell his drinking buddies.
Joke’s on you students. You all got pawned.
Just to let you know
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Hunter Riley is a woman. This is a wonderful article Hunter! Keep up the great work!
ok
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Subject matter’s good, Hunter, with decent info, but it’s just a risqué book report if you don’t interview someone. The read would be much better if you had some quotes from the author, someone at the resource center, or at the very least some kids around campus who want to give their opinions on the joys and heartbreaks of sodomizin’.
Well then...
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Well then, if Hunter is a woman, I just have one thing to say: “What’s your phone number babe ?”
Tyler
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HOW DARE YOU? How dare you, as a journalism student, experiment in your college publication by writing content some might find too colorful or offensive? How dare you write about something people commonly do in the bedroom, but find too taboo to talk about outside of it?
You should be ashamed of yourself.
Wargasm
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Great job Hunter! Keep these coming.
All of the tarts that are moaning and groaning about this article not being appropriate probably don’t spend a great deal of time being open minded, or browsing the internet.
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If informative, factual discussions about a topic like this can’t be had at an educational institution, then we are all a lost cause. Ill-tempered eels will inherit the earth.
Shush
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Although taboo (for the time being) there is absolutely nothing wrong with addressing this sort of sexual act in a newspaper. It’s refreshing and in my opinion awesome that our university is allowing such an open forum for us to be able to learn and communicate. This topic is growing in popularity and more awareness and education will lead to its acceptance. If you’re not into this kind of behavior that is just fine but some people are and that makes it ok to address.
BUT
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There is no getting passed the fact that the article was poorly written. High school journalism skills at best. Very disappointing. Could have and should have been a lot better as far as useful info and grammar. :)
AA
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All you crybaby students and staff who are getting all butthurt (pun intended) over this should be thanking the author. Going to school here and/or working here one needs to be prepared to take it up the ass from this administration and the legislature.
Fact.
Keith Smith
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It’s traditional that children prove how “grown up” they are by testing how far they can go once they are free from parental restraints. If they survive this period they learn a little thing called “self restraint” and the notion that “just because I CAN do something doesn’t mean I should” and they marvel at the stupid things they did. So congratulations! You have lowered the bar. If Ms. Riley’s journalistic aspirations survive to see her 35th birthday it will be interesting to see whether she includes the piece on sodomy in her portfolio. Of course, by then her children will be publishing pieces on snuffing or bestiality in the name of open mindedness.
david wilson
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The writing style is somewhat childish; the use of poop and bum-bum is inappropriate in an otherwise interesting take on a very common sexual practice. But if you are going to give advice on how to have anal sex, then you need to provide cautions. Even with an enema, the colon contains active colonies of various bacteria that can be harmful to humans if transferred on the finger or penis (or tongue, if we want to include other types of anal stimulation). This article should have covered hygiene and condom use as well. Hepatitis C, an incurable viral condition that can damage the liver, is easily transferred during anal sex. eColi and other bacterial infections are alsy easily transferred. Good hygiene – washing hands and penis or wiping with anti-bacterial wipes – is essential.
Connie
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I think that this an example of poor journalism. The language in this story is childish and innappropriate. The quotes are horrendous. “If it hurts, that’s your body’s way of saying ‘Lets stop,’” Taormino said in an interview. “And if it hurts it means you’re not doing it right. Maybe you’re not using lube, or not warming up, or not starting small, or you’re not in the mood for it.” What about those people who have tried it and just do not enjoy anal sex?
PA
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I don’t think that the occasional sex-related article is such a bad idea. This is, after all, a university. We are supposed to be adults. Personally, I was feeling a bit “stiff” after reading her article.
Howard Martinez
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I thought anal “devil” sex was illegal in the United States of America.
Mike
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I agree the language here is pretty juvenile, I can almost hear Ms Riley and a friend or two giggling as they brainstorm another word more appropriate than “poopshoot”.
That said, this article should not only be welcome but required reading as UNM has been giving it to their students up the butt for years!
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BA-ZING!
Christopher Chantrill
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Isn’t it great to have a Republican senator from Massachusetts? It’s also good to have the First Amendment reaffirmed by the United States Supreme Court — even if our liberal friends are shocked and appalled at the notion of corporations sticking up for themselves.
As delicious as last week’s good news was for conservatives, You Ain’t Seen Nothing Yet. We do not mean that every week will bring new conservative successes. Not at all. It is just that every month will bring fresh anguish for President Obama and his supporters.
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There’s the sinking spell in the equity markets last week. It might be from worrying about the president’s anti-banker populism. Or more likely, it is telling us that we are not out of the woods yet on the economy. I suspect disappointing news on fourth-quarter GDP on January 29.
Indeed, it’s pretty clear after 2009, the year the locusts ate, that President Obama and his liberal supporters are facing an annus horribilis. And they know it. Here’s Jon Jeter of The Root telling his readers to be afraid, very afraid. He sees “a perfect, gathering storm of economics, politics and tribalism[.]”
Trilbalism? I’m afraid so. Racism is rearing its ugly head again. Jeter quotes Andrea Mitchell, who sees anger out there — the worst since the days of George Wallace. And guess who will be taking the part of George Wallace this time around: Sarah Palin.
“Palin is the latest in a long line of demagogues -from post-Reconstruction governors in the Deep South to Father Coughlin in the ’30s, from Reagan to Lou Dobbs-who’ve emerged to redeem, or reclaim, the land from Northern carpetbaggers and uppity Negroes.”
It still takes me by surprise when the liberals reaches for the racist redneck line. Yet it makes complete sense. If you are writing the narrative of a progressive vanguard leading the world into a highly evolved future, then your story needs an antagonist. The redneck, racist truck-driver with a rifle in the back window fits the part to a T.
Presumably President Obama is trying to preempt the right-wing racists by getting the first dagger into the backs of the bankers. After all, it was the bankers who sent the Okies to California.
Here’s my prediction. The president’s banker gambit will fall as flat as his stimulus plan, his cap-and-trade bill, and his ObamaCare fiasco. But that will be the least of his problems. There will be continuing high unemployment right through 2010, which I predicted a couple of weeks ago. There’s the housing market that still hasn’t turned. There’s the huge monetary stimulus that must be unwound. There’s the budget crisis in the states. There is the tax increase coming in 2011 when the Bush tax cuts expire. Oh, and did I mention the budget deficit and runaway federal spending, or everyone’s favorite, Fannie and Freddie?
It is becoming more and more clear that neither Obama nor Axelrod nor Emanuel really understands ordinary, suburban, private-sector, Joe the Plumber America. Urban America they know. But not suburban Massachusetts.
Scott Brown’s victory last week, writes Bill Kristol, demonstrated the potential of an “enlightened, good-natured, constructive populism.” Notice also how the new Brownian motion slices through the “enlightened progressives vs. benighted reactionaries” narrative of liberal Jon Jeter.
Jeter’s liberal way is the pre-modern way, a hierarchical moral order, with the educated elite guiding the unevolved peasants. The conservative way is the Modern Moral Order, as Charles Taylor describes it in “A Secular Age:”
“The basic normative principle is, indeed, that the members of society serve each other’s needs, help each other, in short, behave like the rational and sociable creatures that they are … In other words, the basic point of the new normative order [is] the mutual respect and mutual service of the individuals who make up society.”
This all comes straight from John Locke. So a president who wants health care organized in a single administrative bureaucratic program is missing the basic Lockean point. He is proposing a new version of the old medieval hierarchical structure, where kings ruled by divine right. Only now, liberals want to rule by educated right.
The president has a problem, as Mark Steyn points out: “[Obama ran for president] as something he’s not, and never has been: a post-partisan, centrist, transformative healer[.]”
After a year of the president reverting to type as a partisan, left-liberal wheeler-dealer, the American people have declared in three elections so far that they didn’t vote for that. They wanted someone who would stop the bickering and grow the economy.
So what does Obama do now? The way he’s going, there may not be a Democratic Party by the end of his term in 2013.
As I said, you ain’t seen nothing yet.
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