Editor,

Marriage destroys many friendships.

My parents might have been good friends if they had never married. Some couples become better friends after divorce.



If I had been my mother, I do not know how I could have coped with being married to my dad. If I had been my dad, I do not know how I could have coped with being married to my mother. Married 48 years until my mother died, much of the time, it was emotional WAR! Fortunately, they did not booze; they did not own guns! I learned from them NOT to get trapped in a miserable marriage!

I aim to tell the truth. I aim NOT to make foolish promises. Do I ever know myself or the other person or the future well enough to know for sure we both will do well with only each other romantically until death?

A solemn vow many make and break or want to break! A solemn vow I refuse to make to anyone. I treasure being in love with certain men. Like many people, I can be deeply and openly in love with more than one person at the same time.

YES to passionate romances! Legal lifelong marriage to one person for me — never!

Don Schrader