Editor,
I have been in love with certain men. I treasure mutually passionate romance with a man but do not want a license from any state for my deep romantic connection with him. I want him to stay with me because he wants to stay with me - not because he feels stuck with me in a legal cage called marriage or civil union. If we part, I do not want to sue him, and I do not want him to sue me.
Many legally married couples stay miserably chained together for decades because they fear court battles, spending thousands of dollars on lawyers and being branded as marriage rejects if they break up. Legal marriage requires our pledging lifelong romantic commitment to only each other.
I aim to tell the truth and not to make foolish promises. Do I ever know myself or him or the future well enough to know for sure we both will do well with only each other until death? Like many people, I am able to be openly, honestly and deeply in love with more than one person.
I oppose all laws that prohibit legal marriage between two men or between two women. But legal marriage for me? No way.
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Don Schrader
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