Editor,
One of America’s best-kept secrets is the multitude of bisexual men. I met a gay Anglo who had been in the Navy. I asked him how it was being gay in the Navy. He said, “Not bad, except there was a married Chicano who picked a fight with me.” Later the two of them happened to be at the same party. As the night wore on, they got it on — in sex! As the morning approached, the married Chicano went home to his wife. Later, he returned to the gay Anglo for more sex. The gay Anglo asked him, “If you had these feelings for me, why did you pick a fight with me?” The married bisexual Chicano answered honestly, “I could not let my friends know.”
If you have a male friend who gets off on telling anti-gay jokes and insulting, threatening or beating up gays and bisexuals, take him aside one-on-one and tell him, “You had better stop persecuting and putting down gays and bisexuals. Some people will eventually wonder why you are barking so loud. What are you trying to hide? Why is this a big deal to you?”
Many males who yell “faggot” at others who have sex or want to have sex with males, but they do not have the balls to say so. Some males are terrified of their own hidden, repressed desires for male sex — scared if they tried it once with a male, they would enjoy it so much that they would want to continue getting it on with men.
If it were not for the terrible taboos from religion, family, friends and society, most if not all men would be strongly sexually attracted to at least one man during their lifetime and would enjoy sex and romance with him. Sex between men would become as popular as baseball, basketball, soccer, wrestling, etc.
If I am sexually attracted to a man married to a woman and if he is sexually attracted to me, I hesitate to have sex with him. Two hurdles: I do not want him lying to his wife and getting in fights with her because of me if she does not know about and accept his bisexuality. Many married men feel they have a right to have sex with other women or men, but they demand their wives to have sex with no other men or women under the threat of violence or divorce. I want any bisexual man I have sex with to be honest and fair with his wife. No lies and no double standard!
I would not give up my strong romantic attraction to certain men for all the money and fame in the world.
Don Schrader
Community member
